I do not believe that my desire to make money makes me less of a lady than when I was content to
make pennies as a teacher.

But, if it does, I’m learning to be okay with that.

I did not put my family through law school so that we could continue to scrounge for our survival. There is nothing ladylike or feminine about not knowing how I will pay rent, heat my home, or feed my family.

Nothing is charming about asking friends for money. I do not feel nostalgic for sleepless nights
anticipating the next $500 emergency that could push my family into bankruptcy.

My goal is to someday make over $200k a year and, oddly enough, there’s a part of me that is
embarrassed. I feel like single mothers are only supposed to want enough money to meet their family’s basic daily needs. I worry that people will think I am selfish when I say that I want so much more.

I want to…

  • have six months of emergency savings,
  • easily take care of minor medical emergencies,
  • give my kids music and art lessons,
  • buy a house and own it outright,
  • fill my home with comfortable furniture,
  • hire a landscaper to take care of my yard,
  • buy a car that’s new instead of used,
  • go on family vacations,
  • retire in style with plenty to spare, and
  • leave an inheritance for my children and grandchildren.

I won’t apologize or listen to the voices telling me I’m greedy or bad for pursuing money. If men can
pursue profitable careers and wealth without guilt, so can I.

Through the community that we are building at FRW, we are empowering more single mothers to
pursue money unapologetically.

Money means options, freedom, safety, and comfort.

There is no reason to settle for less.

Author: Lisa Sledge